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5/8/25-How to Juggle It All: Real-World Advice for Caregivers Balancing Work, Aging Parents, and Their Own Lives

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  • 7 days ago
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Written by: Guest Blogger Cheryl Conklin

When you're caring for a senior parent while working a job and still trying to have some version of a personal life, the pressure doesn’t just build — it multiplies. You’re pulled in three directions constantly, and the guilt for dropping the ball in any one of them can eat you alive. There’s no magic formula, no color-coded schedule that fixes the overwhelm entirely. But there are ways to navigate the chaos without burning yourself to the ground — ways that actually feel doable when you’re running on fumes.

Prioritize Without Apologizing

Every demand on your time is going to feel urgent. Your boss needs a report by the end of day, your mom is waiting for her prescription, and your friend hasn’t heard from you in a month. It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to please everyone, but that’s how you end up resentful and exhausted. The truth is, you have to get ruthless about what matters most in each moment and stop apologizing for not doing it all. You’re not choosing one person over another — you’re choosing not to break.


Try Time Blocking That Works In Real Life

Forget the rigid schedules you’ve seen online. Your life isn’t built for perfection — it’s built for flexibility. Try blocking off your time in chunks based on themes instead of hours. For example, you might have a “parent care” window in the morning, “work priority” block during peak productivity hours, and “mental recovery” time at night. Leave buffer zones, because with caregiving, something always comes up.


Create Micro-Moments of Self-Care

You’re probably tired of hearing people tell you to “just take care of yourself” like it’s a button you can push. Self-care isn’t spa days or long weekends when you’re knee-deep in appointments and errands. It’s sneaking in a 5-minute walk after dinner or blasting your favorite song while you clean the kitchen. It’s texting a friend something dumb just to laugh. These micro-moments add up — they’re the glue that holds you together.


Reclaim Your Ambitions Without Guilt Putting your dreams on pause doesn’t mean they’ve disappeared — they’re just buried under everything else you’ve had to manage. Going back to school can be a powerful way to reconnect with who you are outside of caregiving. Online degree programs can improve your career prospects, offering flexible tracks in fields like healthcare, where you can explore nursing and more. They also give you a manageable way to fit learning into your life. This may help if you’ve been waiting for the right moment to invest in yourself.


Rethink What “Help” Looks Like

You don’t always need someone to swoop in and take over. Sometimes help is a neighbor bringing in your trash bins, a cousin picking up a prescription, or a coworker agreeing to switch shifts. You’ve been taught to believe that asking for help makes you weak or incapable. But it actually shows strength — and more importantly, it shows you’re thinking long-term. Burnout isn’t noble; it’s preventable.


Establish Boundaries You can't keep giving if you don’t set some lines in the sand. That means your work hours need to stay your work hours, and your caregiving can’t spill into every phone call and every free moment. It also means telling family members “no” when they expect more than you can give. Setting boundaries doesn’t make you selfish — it makes you sustainable. And that’s the only way you’ll last in this marathon.


Make Your Commute Work For You If you have a commute, even a short one, use it as your transition time. Instead of checking messages or mentally listing everything you still haven’t done, give yourself permission to decompress. That could mean listening to a podcast that makes you laugh, breathing exercises at red lights, or calling someone who won’t ask you for anything. Treat your commute like a reset button, not just dead time.


Accept That “Balance” Is a Moving Target There will be weeks where work takes the front seat. Other times, caregiving will dominate every waking moment. And some weeks, you might actually get a night to yourself, watching bad TV and eating snacks in peace. Balance isn’t a destination you reach — it’s a constant readjustment based on what’s happening right now. Give yourself the grace to wobble without collapsing.

Caregiving is love in motion, but it can also be lonely and overwhelming. It’s okay to admit that you’re tired. It’s okay to say this is hard. But more than anything, it’s okay to prioritize you — not just as a worker or caregiver, but as a person who still needs laughter, rest, and connection. The more you honor your own needs, the better you’ll show up for the people who depend on you.

If you’re a caregiver juggling it all, this blog is your reminder that you’re not alone—and you don’t have to burn out to be enough. Read this powerful piece for practical tips, honest encouragement, and small shifts that can help you reclaim your time, energy, and self.

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